Lady Crushes will be a series of interviews of the ladies that have rocked my world in one way or another. This is my way to sneak in and share a taste with you of what makes them so damned awesome. Enjoy! xo. Julie
My dear, sweet Tonya Leigh just has to be first up on my list. If you could hear her adorable Southern twang you would be hooked too! Tonya is a fearless leader of women that want to lose weight without sacrificing even one eency-weency bit of pleasure. I initially started working with Tonya as a bit of a research project, and holy cow she has turned my life upside down. Yes I am eating better and my clothes are looser…But even more importantly, I feel connected to my body in a way I never have before. Tonya is doing an online immersion that starts in a little over a week. If you are a smart lass then you will head over there pronto and sign up for the program. Seriously. I am so excited for it to start that I can hardly stand it! And now on to the interview…
What REALLY turns you on about your life?
A cup of coffee enjoyed early in the morning on my back deck with my hubby and dogs. Travel intoxicates me; it expands my soul. I am REALLY turned on by a delicious meal shared with people I love. Moving my body and feeling strong makes me feel amazing as I walk through life. Music gets my juices flowing and my daughter lights me UP! A sunset and sunrise that symbolizes another day to live is HOT!
Truly, life itself, is a huge aphrodisiac. I call it “French Kissing Life.”
What is the passion you had that drove you to start your business?
I am passionate about living a fabulous life – delicious foods, sexy health, fabulous people and the freedom to live your truth.However, I was unable to discover my own passions when I was engrossed in “fixing myself” through dieting, therapy and other modes of transformation.When I finally said to myself, “Hey, life is fabulous and you’re not so bad yourself,” and I started treating life as my playground to explore and grow, I discovered what it means to live a passionate life.Now, I guide women to create lives, bodies and businesses they love.
What daily rituals do you have that keep you juicy, alive and sparkly?
I love rituals, and for me, they start as soon as I open my eyes and end when I close them at night. However, my 3 most important are:
1. 10 Minute Morning Ritual - each morning, before I start packing lunches, checking e-mails or getting ready for work, I spend 10 minutes thinking about the woman I desire to be in my life, and from that question, I think about what I want to accomplish. Many women have it backwards. They think about what they want to “do” in order to “be” something, and then they feel overwhelmed and out of sync. Always start with how you desire to feel first, then allow your “doing” to come from that place.
2. Exercise - Daily movement is as important to my day as a shower. It wasn’t always so, but over time, I discovered the absolute delight of being a woman who moves a lot. Now, on the rare occasion that I don’t exercise, I can feel it not only in my body, but my attitude and productivity. It’s as important to my business as my accountant, and that’s saying a lot!
Plus, moving is sexy. Movement will make you feel very juicy and sparkly. Moving is a form of celebration for life and your body.
3. Nightly Ritual – My nightly ritual is probably the most important of all, because it’s a way to set myself up for a fabulous next day. First, I create my next day’s plan with this one question: what would I love to create more of tomorrow. It could be love, health or more writing or a combination of a few things, but I am very aware not to put too much on my plate. From this question, I’m able to sketch out my next day’s tasks, which also includes a rough menu of what I’ll eat.
Then, I wash my face, brush my teeth and say something fabulous to myself in the mirror and offer up 5 gratitudes. Regardless of what’s happened in my day, I always feel cleansed after performing my nightly séance, and it’s a perfect way to set myself up for a great next day.
When you are stressed out, and life is pulling at your heartstrings, what tool do you use to turn that around?
Well, I use to head straight to the fridge and binge out and spend days caught up in a toxic cycle of binge/repent/repeat. However, through various tools, I discovered a delicious way of handling life’s problems that leave me feeling nourished, not disgusting. Here are my favorite two. They’re not fancy, but they are highly effective.
#1 Turnaround – The Question
I ask this question that seems to always turn a “bad” situation around:
What’s beautiful about this moment?
Whether I’m arguing with my daughter, stuck in traffic or behind on a deadline, this question immediately shifts me to a place of love, gratitude and wisdom.
#2 Turnaround – Movement
The second thing that I do is move my body. When I get out and get active, I’m in the moment and in the moment, I’m always just fine. And, usually, just the act of moving can begin to turn negative energy around.
What is the #1 piece of advice that you would give your best girlfriend about how to lead a pleasurable life?
It’s super important to have a diverse pleasure portfolio of things that bring you pleasure and excitement, and commit to making those things a part of your daily life.
If you are like many women, and you’ve lost touch with what turns you on, then your first step is to go on a pleasure scavenger hunt and notice what delights your senses.
It’s also super important that all your pleasure doesn’t come from food, because you’ll end up overindulging, and that’s not pleasurable at all.
Life is most beautiful when high quality things are enjoyed in moderation and with gusto! And, I have found some of the most pleasurable things are often the most simple to enjoy.